From roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Wed Sep 13 20:07:30 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k8E27Ujb017835; Wed, 13 Sep 2006 20:07:30 -0600 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l.rootsweb.com [66.43.16.22]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k8E27EhV022519 for ; Wed, 13 Sep 2006 20:07:29 -0600 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l [127.0.0.1]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with ESMTP id k8DNPpFI025196 for ; Wed, 13 Sep 2006 19:25:51 -0400 Received: (from roots-in@localhost) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.8/Submit) id k8DNPp37025195 for roots-approved@rootsweb.com; Wed, 13 Sep 2006 19:25:51 -0400 Received: from lists5.rootsweb.com (lists5.rootsweb.com [66.43.27.41]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with SMTP id k8DB7QFI023208 for ; Wed, 13 Sep 2006 07:07:26 -0400 Received: (from slist@localhost) by lists5.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) id k8DDmGfO032532 for roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com; Wed, 13 Sep 2006 07:48:16 -0600 X-Envelope-From: mscheffl@twcny.rr.com Wed Sep 13 07:48:15 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k8DDmFjb032523 for ; Wed, 13 Sep 2006 07:48:15 -0600 Received: from ms-smtp-01.nyroc.rr.com (ms-smtp-01.nyroc.rr.com [24.24.2.55]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k8DDmEdj030150 for ; Wed, 13 Sep 2006 07:48:15 -0600 Received: from m1070n (cpe-69-201-76-92.twcny.res.rr.com [69.201.76.92]) by ms-smtp-01.nyroc.rr.com (8.13.6/8.13.6) with SMTP id k8DDmErL019106 for ; Wed, 13 Sep 2006 09:48:16 -0400 (EDT) Message-ID: <003a01c6d73b$42dc1640$6501a8c0@m1070n> From: "MScheffler" To: References: <245.11da6d55.3238b29c@aol.com> Subject: Re: [ROOTS-L] why wont cousins. Date: Wed, 13 Sep 2006 09:48:14 -0400 MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; format=flowed; charset="iso-8859-1"; reply-type=original Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit X-Priority: 3 X-MSMail-Priority: Normal X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook Express 6.00.2900.2869 X-MIMEOLE: Produced By Microsoft MimeOLE V6.00.2900.2962 X-Virus-Scanned: Symantec AntiVirus Scan Engine X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 Sender: roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Actually I think that in general people have acted the same way for years. Some are interested in family history and want to reach out to possible new cousins. Others are simply not interested or too busy or have problems in their family they want to keep to themselves.. Then there are some who have always felt no one had any business asking questions of them. Perhaps this is more prevalent now. Again, most of us might tone down what we are searching and start with ourselves and our children and other known living relatives and move back to people who are not living. Depending on our ages, there may be lots of information in census and newspaper obituaries to get a good start without needing to hunt for some long lost cousin who may or may not be interested. When you do stumble upon someone else interested, they may have contacts they can introduce us to. It's always frustrating to keep contacting people who do not respond. But most of us can work on older generations, post them at WorldConnect, and usually after a period of time, a person with a similar interest will respond with an email or a post-em note on a WorldConnect database. Patience is really a tremendous asset in this hobby. One can also search the shared databases for possibly connected people. People who have already shared online are probably at least interested in genealogy and may share if you contact them. But then again they may not. I try to answer all emails addressed to me, but I know I miss a few depending on whether I have time to answer the day the email comes. One need not give up looking for living people, but other than immediate family it is probably not the best place to start. The more we can offer others information first may have an effect on whether they will provide us with something else. Margaret Scheffler ----- Original Message ----- From: To: Sent: Tuesday, September 12, 2006 9:02 PM Subject: [ROOTS-L] why wont cousins. > I've experienced this myself in the past. > Today I think people are just too leary because of all the talk about > identity theft to give out much information on themselves and there > family. > The trust is just gone. > Mysteriouscozy@aol.com> >