From roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Tue Sep 12 08:34:40 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k8CEYejb030951; Tue, 12 Sep 2006 08:34:40 -0600 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l.rootsweb.com [66.43.16.22]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k8CEYb50022568 for ; Tue, 12 Sep 2006 08:34:37 -0600 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l [127.0.0.1]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with ESMTP id k8CBrLFI019608 for ; Tue, 12 Sep 2006 07:53:21 -0400 Received: (from roots-in@localhost) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.8/Submit) id k8CBrLtZ019607 for roots-approved@rootsweb.com; Tue, 12 Sep 2006 07:53:21 -0400 Received: from lists5.rootsweb.com (lists5.rootsweb.com [66.43.27.41]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with SMTP id k8CAPcFI019391 for ; Tue, 12 Sep 2006 06:25:38 -0400 Received: (from slist@localhost) by lists5.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) id k8CD6kc4009218 for roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com; Tue, 12 Sep 2006 07:06:46 -0600 X-Envelope-From: marilyneb@gmail.com Tue Sep 12 07:06:46 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k8CD6kjb009207 for ; Tue, 12 Sep 2006 07:06:46 -0600 Received: from ug-out-1314.google.com (ug-out-1314.google.com [66.249.92.169]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k8CD6ho7030917 for ; Tue, 12 Sep 2006 07:06:44 -0600 Received: by ug-out-1314.google.com with SMTP id m2so1725725uge for ; Tue, 12 Sep 2006 06:06:44 -0700 (PDT) DomainKey-Signature: a=rsa-sha1; q=dns; c=nofws; s=beta; d=gmail.com; h=received:message-id:date:from:to:subject:cc:in-reply-to:mime-version:content-type:references; b=JW8UZlckZJMX8DKilb0sHm8wE0RE+X2DwE21R8f+Hg93d4CLOwWj4GTw5m8enl7iu77sbgmt5wpRTvDwq3ZR0DvXXx6AV7xrbqhcpIDmxIZ0lBT837BJP5j4BAHPAPPFS8nFzxTlmKnG7/4eoBvxYfdxjHEqEccji1AX3/R+qw8= Received: by 10.67.24.13 with SMTP id b13mr3366353ugj; Tue, 12 Sep 2006 06:06:43 -0700 (PDT) Received: by 10.66.236.16 with HTTP; Tue, 12 Sep 2006 06:06:43 -0700 (PDT) Message-ID: <65d66f240609120606x4d207103y32318d1fd6ce7c65@mail.gmail.com> Date: Tue, 12 Sep 2006 08:06:43 -0500 From: "marilyn e brown" To: "Jan Freeman" Subject: Re: [ROOTS-L] RE: Cousins Cc: ROOTS-M@rootsweb.com In-Reply-To: <20060912030939.36359.qmail@web53509.mail.yahoo.com> MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset=ISO-8859-1; format=flowed References: <200609120038.k8C0cL1K019362@lists5.rootsweb.com> <20060912030939.36359.qmail@web53509.mail.yahoo.com> X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 Sender: roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com I answered with the attitude of all but two of my direct 1st cousins. I must say that online I have found "cousins" from generations long ago. Many of these have been very helpful. Recently on a list I was corresponding with a list member concerning a situation. She happened to mention some surnames she was trying to get entered in her computer. Bingo, we had a common name and it is a connection that goes back into the 1600's. Some are interested and some aren't. My own children fall into the last group. It is easier when you have others who will at least contribute what they may have found in the attic. Marilyne On 9/11/06, Jan Freeman wrote: > > > > > X-Message: #1 > Date: Mon, 11 Sep 2006 07:22:07 -0400 > From: Suzy McGrew Krol > Subject: Re: [ROOTS-L] Why won't cousins talk to me? > > My experience with cousins answering has been very different from what > most are saying. > A great uncle of mine did a family tree book about 50 years ago which was > privately published and distributed to the family. About 15 years later I > decided to try to update the information in it with a supplement. I began > with the addresses of about 10 of my cousins that I knew where they were > from. I wrote explaining who I was, the relationship and the reason for my > letter. I enclosed a list of the questions I needed answered, a SASE and > asked if they were aware of the whereabouts of any other cousins. > Within a period of about 3 months, I was able to find representatives of > every "branch" except for one. Actually, I found them but they very > impolitely responded that they were not interested in this side of their > family. > I received all the information I had requested as well as 100's of > pictures! > Now that genealogy has moved to the internet, I have been privileged to > "meet" about a dozen "cousins" from two other branches of my tree that I did > not even know exiisted. The means of contacting them has varied (I can be > pretty creative), but with only one exception, by explaining who I was, what > I wanted, the connection between us and the guarantee that if they preferred > to not be involved or respond that they would not receive another contact > from me. I always give them the link to my "tree" online at tribal pages > and let them know that I never post information on any living persons on the > web. > This has worked well for me and I have gained many new "cousins" and we > have shared information with each other. > I hope that this encourages some of you who may be disheartened by some of > the responses. I think that people are either interested or not interested > and I have been fortunate that even the ones who were not involved in > genealogy, still had enough of a sense of family, that they wanted to know > about the family. > Jan Freeman > > > --------------------------------- > Stay in the know. Pulse on the new Yahoo.com. Check it out. > >