From roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Mon Sep 11 22:31:45 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k8C4Vjjb008583; Mon, 11 Sep 2006 22:31:45 -0600 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l.rootsweb.com [66.43.16.22]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k8C4Vi7t028539 for ; Mon, 11 Sep 2006 22:31:44 -0600 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l [127.0.0.1]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with ESMTP id k8C1oSFI017737 for ; Mon, 11 Sep 2006 21:50:28 -0400 Received: (from roots-in@localhost) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.8/Submit) id k8C1oSmi017736 for roots-approved@rootsweb.com; Mon, 11 Sep 2006 21:50:28 -0400 Received: from lists5.rootsweb.com (lists5.rootsweb.com [66.43.27.41]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with SMTP id k8C0SeFI017531 for ; Mon, 11 Sep 2006 20:28:40 -0400 Received: (from slist@localhost) by lists5.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) id k8C39jHR028004 for roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com; Mon, 11 Sep 2006 21:09:45 -0600 X-Envelope-From: ladytxlove@yahoo.com Mon Sep 11 21:09:45 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k8C39jjb027993 for ; Mon, 11 Sep 2006 21:09:45 -0600 Received: from web53509.mail.yahoo.com (web53509.mail.yahoo.com [206.190.37.70]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with SMTP id k8C39iQg025495 for ; Mon, 11 Sep 2006 21:09:44 -0600 Received: (qmail 36361 invoked by uid 60001); 12 Sep 2006 03:09:39 -0000 DomainKey-Signature: a=rsa-sha1; q=dns; c=nofws; s=s1024; d=yahoo.com; h=Message-ID:Received:Date:From:Subject:To:In-Reply-To:MIME-Version:Content-Type:Content-Transfer-Encoding; b=ROuHWvcNGRDCm8MOxM9PxXea0pD7HdiYDfahTedp7dNYpte6eZgJkGJ4yhLIxPeLchFSLrL8XA2UH7LZR2wh/h9E/JJVFc4Iep+RaZVa4sEROhugBuHzcMCHP32MuYJRf1Kdwb3aT3LyqOJ6QsaOnsO7hspd2G3L2J0BK7gTzpg= ; Message-ID: <20060912030939.36359.qmail@web53509.mail.yahoo.com> Received: from [72.26.24.120] by web53509.mail.yahoo.com via HTTP; Mon, 11 Sep 2006 20:09:39 PDT Date: Mon, 11 Sep 2006 20:09:39 -0700 (PDT) From: Jan Freeman To: ROOTS-L@rootsweb.com In-Reply-To: <200609120038.k8C0cL1K019362@lists5.rootsweb.com> MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset=iso-8859-1 Content-Transfer-Encoding: 8bit X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 Sender: roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Subject: [ROOTS-L] RE: Cousins X-Message: #1 Date: Mon, 11 Sep 2006 07:22:07 -0400 From: Suzy McGrew Krol Subject: Re: [ROOTS-L] Why won't cousins talk to me? My experience with cousins answering has been very different from what most are saying. A great uncle of mine did a family tree book about 50 years ago which was privately published and distributed to the family. About 15 years later I decided to try to update the information in it with a supplement. I began with the addresses of about 10 of my cousins that I knew where they were from. I wrote explaining who I was, the relationship and the reason for my letter. I enclosed a list of the questions I needed answered, a SASE and asked if they were aware of the whereabouts of any other cousins. Within a period of about 3 months, I was able to find representatives of every "branch" except for one. Actually, I found them but they very impolitely responded that they were not interested in this side of their family. I received all the information I had requested as well as 100's of pictures! Now that genealogy has moved to the internet, I have been privileged to "meet" about a dozen "cousins" from two other branches of my tree that I did not even know exiisted. The means of contacting them has varied (I can be pretty creative), but with only one exception, by explaining who I was, what I wanted, the connection between us and the guarantee that if they preferred to not be involved or respond that they would not receive another contact from me. I always give them the link to my "tree" online at tribal pages and let them know that I never post information on any living persons on the web. This has worked well for me and I have gained many new "cousins" and we have shared information with each other. I hope that this encourages some of you who may be disheartened by some of the responses. I think that people are either interested or not interested and I have been fortunate that even the ones who were not involved in genealogy, still had enough of a sense of family, that they wanted to know about the family. Jan Freeman --------------------------------- Stay in the know. Pulse on the new Yahoo.com. Check it out.