From roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Sun Sep 10 20:56:36 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k8B2uajb029231; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 20:56:36 -0600 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l.rootsweb.com [66.43.16.22]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k8B2uZpo000452 for ; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 20:56:35 -0600 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l [127.0.0.1]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with ESMTP id k8B0FNFI013301 for ; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 20:15:24 -0400 Received: (from roots-in@localhost) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.8/Submit) id k8B0FNmX013300 for roots-approved@rootsweb.com; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 20:15:23 -0400 Received: from lists5.rootsweb.com (lists5.rootsweb.com [66.43.27.41]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with SMTP id k8ANTlFI013158 for ; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 19:29:47 -0400 Received: (from slist@localhost) by lists5.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) id k8B2AnlZ024174 for roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 20:10:49 -0600 X-Envelope-From: maximumrpm@netzero.net Sun Sep 10 20:10:48 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k8B2Amjb024165 for ; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 20:10:48 -0600 Received: from outbound-mail.nyc.untd.com (outbound-mail.nyc.untd.com [64.136.20.164]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with SMTP id k8B2Al0P006633 for ; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 20:10:48 -0600 Received: from TygerTyger (08-121.190.popsite.net [66.217.40.121]) by smtp04.nyc.untd.com with SMTP id AABCSKTN5A3TGYJS for (sender ); Sun, 10 Sep 2006 19:10:35 -0700 (PDT) Message-ID: <000c01c6d547$75a13010$7928d942@TygerTyger> From: "cats313" To: References: <200609102328.k8ANSDNL023007@lists5.rootsweb.com> Date: Sun, 10 Sep 2006 22:10:30 -0400 MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; format=flowed; charset="iso-8859-1"; reply-type=original Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit X-Priority: 3 X-MSMail-Priority: Normal X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook Express 6.00.2900.2869 Disposition-Notification-To: "cats313" X-MimeOLE: Produced By Microsoft MimeOLE V6.00.2900.2962 X-ContentStamp: 12:6:1051967189 X-MAIL-INFO: 4c8d0c2129bd3c294c4cb84c39f9591cc5c52c1ce9cc0048385d7dac216db1cc19ccbdfcd50c1d88414c2d21f9e118002cf9 X-UNTD-OriginStamp: vq2uHWYrWKkjpWYWHWMrxQcWokm1ygD7WcLfkXA/RUs5i0GJumVyRzlaNJ0RZrQn X-UNTD-Peer-Info: 66.217.40.121|08-121.190.popsite.net|TygerTyger|maximumrpm@netzero.net X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 Sender: roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Subject: [ROOTS-L] Re: Why won't my cousins talk to me? In a message dated 9/9/2006 4:46:27 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, patriciasears@rogers.com writes: > I've sent genealogy reports to at least 20 relatives and only two > responded > with a thank you. I called them and got a little bit more information > but > not much. The vast majority of people aren't interested, I'm afraid. > One > cousin even told me to stop "annoying" him. It sounds as if you've had some hurtful experiences in trying to touch bases. I have always been amazed/amused at the stories of unknown cousins finding warm and fuzzy kin and traveling half the world to have a happy, happy first visit and compare genealogical charts. Yeh. Right. Ok, maybe it happens. One time in a million. It would seem that most people don't give a darn for kin they didn't grow up with and maybe not for them, either. I've only contacted cousins who already published on the web and offered to fill in some blanks for them. Once in a while, someone would write back. Most don't care. If it isn't THEIR direct line they can't be bothered. I've had 11th half cousins I didn't realize existed send e-files of their family trees and wrote to thank them and find out who they are. I've kept their files, of course, but I've several thousand people in my ged.com as it is and I don't really visualize going back several hundred years to add/merge the family line sent me. I suppose I have a greater interest in the compiler than in their 7th great grandma who was my 6th cousin by adoption seven times removed. Of all those I've found in doing research there has only been one man a long way away who has stayed in touch, off and on, throughout the years. I don't suppose this is atypical. It is, however, unfortunate. As for Patricia.....how unusual that she has a name shared, before marriage, by an old classmate of long ago. The other Patricia was in Ohio and became, I believe, a Hannihan by marriage. She'd be 59-61 years of age now. Alix