From roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Sun Sep 10 19:21:05 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k8B1L5jb006732; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 19:21:05 -0600 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l.rootsweb.com [66.43.16.22]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k8B1Kp45012396 for ; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 19:20:52 -0600 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l [127.0.0.1]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with ESMTP id k8AMddFI013017 for ; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 18:39:39 -0400 Received: (from roots-in@localhost) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.8/Submit) id k8AMddQS013016 for roots-approved@rootsweb.com; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 18:39:39 -0400 Received: from lists5.rootsweb.com (lists5.rootsweb.com [66.43.27.41]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with SMTP id k8AL8kFI012806 for ; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 17:08:46 -0400 Received: (from slist@localhost) by lists5.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) id k8ANnlKf026010 for roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 17:49:47 -0600 X-Envelope-From: mputman@gohighspeed.com Sun Sep 10 17:49:47 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k8ANnljb025999 for ; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 17:49:47 -0600 Received: from mail.my180.net (mail.my180.net [216.229.188.250]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k8ANnkah022290 for ; Sun, 10 Sep 2006 17:49:46 -0600 Received: (qmail 18891 invoked by uid 110); 10 Sep 2006 23:51:54 -0000 Received: from 64-35-130-113.gohighspeed.com (HELO eozfaqvf) (64.35.130.113) by mail.my180.net with SMTP; 10 Sep 2006 23:51:54 -0000 Message-ID: <008201c6d533$76d29b40$71822340@eozfaqvf> From: "Mary Putman" To: Date: Sun, 10 Sep 2006 16:47:17 -0700 MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="Windows-1252" X-Priority: 3 X-MSMail-Priority: Normal X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook Express 5.50.4807.1700 X-MimeOLE: Produced By Microsoft MimeOLE V5.50.4807.1700 X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 Sender: roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Subject: [ROOTS-L] Why won't cousins talk to me? Patricia in Ottawa, this problem has been an on-going frustration in the family I search. I have searched all descendants of one unusual surname (midwestern U.S. and Texas) for 36 years and have tried repeatedly to contact descendants by e-mail of one of my grt-grt-grandfather's brothers, Philip Highnote, who went to Texas in 1844. I have contacted at least 8 of these distant cousins with offers of help and have received only 2 answers with no information! No one seems very willing to share information with me, though I have always shared freely with about 50 correspondants and dozens of e-mailers over the years. The descendants of the one original couple, Philip's parents, now number about 3000 with their spouses. Much of the verified information I have on the Texas families, I received about 1978 from a family member who lived in Navarro County. After 5 years of trying to get some answers by e-mail, I've just about given up adding to that family's info. Hope you ! have better luck with your cousins! Mary in Washington - The Evergreen State (Not so evergreen now, 10 forest fires burning with about 350,000 acres burned!)