From roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Mon Mar 6 11:06:43 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k26I6hjb028081; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 11:06:43 -0700 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l.rootsweb.com [66.43.16.22]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k26I6hnD009388 for ; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 11:06:43 -0700 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l [127.0.0.1]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with ESMTP id k26FafFI025712 for ; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 10:36:42 -0500 Received: (from roots-in@localhost) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.8/Submit) id k26Faff3025711 for roots-approved@rootsweb.com; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 10:36:41 -0500 Received: from lists5.rootsweb.com (lists5.rootsweb.com [66.43.27.41]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with SMTP id k26FPNFI025538 for ; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 10:25:23 -0500 Received: (from slist@localhost) by lists5.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) id k26HtEr1006557 for roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 10:55:14 -0700 X-Envelope-From: Kith-n-Kin@cox.net Mon Mar 6 10:55:14 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k26HtEjb006548 for ; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 10:55:14 -0700 Received: from fed1rmmtao08.cox.net (fed1rmmtao08.cox.net [68.230.241.31]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k26HtBXs001448 for ; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 10:55:11 -0700 Received: from TOWER ([68.0.155.47]) by fed1rmmtao08.cox.net (InterMail vM.6.01.05.02 201-2131-123-102-20050715) with ESMTP id <20060306175201.SSDJ26964.fed1rmmtao08.cox.net@TOWER>; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 12:52:01 -0500 From: "Kith-n-Kin" To: "'Carole'" , Subject: RE: [ROOTS-L] Re: Legal and Birth Father Date: Mon, 6 Mar 2006 10:54:58 -0700 Message-ID: <007c01c64147$15f3a3d0$6501a8c0@TOWER> MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="us-ascii" X-Priority: 3 (Normal) X-MSMail-Priority: Normal X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook, Build 10.0.6626 Importance: Normal X-MimeOLE: Produced By Microsoft MimeOLE V6.00.2900.2180 In-Reply-To: <003e01c640d8$92082a00$6501a8c0@carol> X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 Content-Transfer-Encoding: 8bit X-MIME-Autoconverted: from quoted-printable to 8bit by admin.rootsweb.com id k26HtEjb006548 Sender: roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Our goals as genealogists include making life as easy as possible for those who come after us. So, my take? For the "primary name" use the name she used. If it was her mother's family name, fine. If it was her step-grandfather/adoptive father's name, fine. It was the first until she was three, and the second after that, fine. Then, of course, you want to make sure, by "additional names" or "memos" or whatever method necessary, include all of this information. What you don't want is for Mary, who was known as Mary Smith (her adopted father's name) until the time of her marriage, to be identified as Mary Jones, just because (a) Jones was her bio mom's name, (b) Jones was her bio-dad's name, or (c) any other reason. Likewise, the reverse. So, in genealogy, we don't "pick" names for people, especially based on modern interpretations of what is "right." We identify people as they identified themselves. I have a person who legally changed his name to his wife's family name (no, not royalty, and no, not money, just the seventies attitude), when they were married. So, he is "Sam Smith" for any tags up until the marriage, "Sam Hername" from then on. I surely hope they never divorce! So, you see, it doesn't matter why these name changes happen (although it may make a good story someday), but that we record the information. Regards, Pat (in Tucson) |-----Original Message----- |From: roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com |[mailto:roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of Carole |Sent: Sunday, March 05, 2006 21:44 |To: ROOTS-M@rootsweb.com |Subject: [ROOTS-L] Re: Legal and Birth Father | | |Here is my dilemma. My mother was adopted by her grandparents. | |My g grandmother was not married when she had her first |daughter (mom's biological mother) so she went by her mother's |maiden name. My grandmother then had my mother and gave her |up for adoption to her mother and stepfather. My mom went by |the name of her step-grandfather. So how do I list her in a |genealogy chart. By the name her mother went by or the |surname of her stepfather. | |Carole | |