From roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Mon Mar 6 07:54:42 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k26Esgjb001242; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 07:54:42 -0700 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l.rootsweb.com [66.43.16.22]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k26EsgBq015465 for ; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 07:54:43 -0700 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l [127.0.0.1]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with ESMTP id k26COfFI024708 for ; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 07:24:41 -0500 Received: (from roots-in@localhost) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.8/Submit) id k26COfaI024707 for roots-approved@rootsweb.com; Mon, 6 Mar 2006 07:24:41 -0500 Received: from bw-10.mtpinos.com (bw-10.mtpinos.com [63.173.235.138]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with SMTP id k262VsFI023218 for ; Sun, 5 Mar 2006 21:31:55 -0500 Received: from bw-10.mtpinos.com (bw-10.mtpinos.com [127.0.0.1]) by bw-10.mtpinos.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k2651jW7011141 for ; Sun, 5 Mar 2006 21:01:45 -0800 Received: (from karen@localhost) by bw-10.mtpinos.com (8.12.8/8.12.8/Submit) id k2651jbH011139 for roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com; Sun, 5 Mar 2006 21:01:45 -0800 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k264shjb023508 for ; Sun, 5 Mar 2006 21:54:43 -0700 Received: from smtp111.sbc.mail.mud.yahoo.com (smtp111.sbc.mail.mud.yahoo.com [68.142.198.210]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with SMTP id k264scIn009409 for ; Sun, 5 Mar 2006 21:54:39 -0700 Received: (qmail 95822 invoked from network); 6 Mar 2006 04:54:34 -0000 Received: from unknown (HELO TOSHIBA2) (patmcknight@sbcglobal.net@70.128.217.66 with login) by smtp111.sbc.mail.mud.yahoo.com with SMTP; 6 Mar 2006 04:54:33 -0000 Message-ID: <000c01c640da$0f6d3020$6401a8c0@TOSHIBA2> From: "Pat McKnight" To: References: <200603060337.k263b5Bq006097@lists5.rootsweb.com> Date: Sun, 5 Mar 2006 22:54:32 -0600 MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; format=flowed; charset="iso-8859-1"; reply-type=original Content-Transfer-Encoding: 8bit X-Priority: 3 X-MSMail-Priority: Normal X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook Express 6.00.2900.2180 X-MimeOLE: Produced By Microsoft MimeOLE V6.00.2900.2180 Sender: roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 Subject: [ROOTS-L] Re: ROOTS-L Digest V06 #106 To Jan-re: Family Secrets! The granddaughter DID have the right to know her true ancestry! Not a doubt in my mind and for several reasons (even though others may have a different opinion). I am speaking (well typing ) from personal experience. I think it was justifiable to reveal the truth when she asked---the truth is always better than the fable. I hope it's not too late for you to share the facts with her. These things are much more socially acceptable now than there were in the past so I can't imagine the truth doing any harm whatsoever at this stage of her life. We are who we are, which is not always the same as "other people" choose to tell us. I am speaking as a "birth" Mother. I always wanted to be available to be "found" should the son I gave birth to ever want to find me and it did happen when he was 24 years old. Thank God his real parents....the couple who adopted him at birth... did not feel threatened by our meeting. As for entering him in my family tree, I added him as my son when he came into my life using his legal name, with an explanation in my Family Treemaker software under notes. I also noted the name of his "birth" father who would have approved, even though he is now deceased. Pat