From roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com Thu Aug 10 15:22:34 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k7ALMYjb028969; Thu, 10 Aug 2006 15:22:34 -0600 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l.rootsweb.com [66.43.16.22]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k7ALMVLZ020099 for ; Thu, 10 Aug 2006 15:22:31 -0600 Received: from roots-l.rootsweb.com (roots-l [127.0.0.1]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with ESMTP id k7AIh9FI025540 for ; Thu, 10 Aug 2006 14:43:10 -0400 Received: (from roots-in@localhost) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.8/Submit) id k7AIh9rx025539 for roots-approved@rootsweb.com; Thu, 10 Aug 2006 14:43:09 -0400 Received: from lists5.rootsweb.com (lists5.rootsweb.com [66.43.27.41]) by roots-l.rootsweb.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with SMTP id k7AE1tFI024913 for ; Thu, 10 Aug 2006 10:01:55 -0400 Received: (from slist@localhost) by lists5.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) id k7AGf6HH027094 for roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com; Thu, 10 Aug 2006 10:41:06 -0600 X-Envelope-From: JNich57@aol.com Thu Aug 10 10:41:06 2006 Received: from mail.rootsweb.com (mail.rootsweb.com [192.168.65.34]) by admin.rootsweb.com (8.12.8/8.12.8) with ESMTP id k7AGf6jb027082 for ; Thu, 10 Aug 2006 10:41:06 -0600 Received: from imo-m18.mx.aol.com (imo-m18.mx.aol.com [64.12.138.208]) by mail.rootsweb.com (8.13.4/8.13.4) with ESMTP id k7AGf4Ke024521 for ; Thu, 10 Aug 2006 10:41:05 -0600 Received: from JNich57@aol.com by imo-m18.mx.aol.com (mail_out_v38_r7.6.) id 9.513.32d87400 (40523); Thu, 10 Aug 2006 12:40:51 -0400 (EDT) From: JNich57@aol.com Message-ID: <513.32d87400.320cbb93@aol.com> Date: Thu, 10 Aug 2006 12:40:51 EDT Subject: Re: [ROOTS-L] Adoption question To: barnacle@cablespeed.com, ROOTS-M@rootsweb.com MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="US-ASCII" X-Mailer: 9.0 SE for Windows sub 5032 X-Spam-Flag: NO X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 X-Scanned-By: MIMEDefang 2.52 on 192.168.65.34 Sender: roots-in@roots-l.rootsweb.com I think you need to look at this question from the standpoint of the two girls who were adopted. First, if they were never told they were adopted and grew up thinking their adoptive parents were their biological parents -- what a shocker at age 60 plus to be told by a stranger that they were adopted. Depending on their health condition it could be very detrimental to their well being. Second, if they were told that they were adopted but had decided to not pursue finding their biological parents, they might not appreciate being contacted. Of course, there is a third scenario in which they have been trying to trace their biological parents and would welcome hearing from you. But there's a good chance that sometime during the 60 some years they would have made contact. My personal choice would be to duly note the facts in your genealogy records but do nothing to attempt to trace or find these two ladies. In a message dated 8/9/2006 9:06:54 PM Eastern Daylight Time, barnacle@cablespeed.com writes: I guess I need some moral advice. Should I provide more information in an attempt to contact the girls so I can provide their mother's (my grandmother) ancestry and some info? Or is it better to let them try to find out themselves if they're interested?